ABOUT

David Whyman

“I never wanted any kids, and how I ended up with three of you bastards, I’ll never know.”

That’s what Mum used to say to me. I’m sure she loved me very much, but things were always difficult for our family financially, and it always put a lot of stress on my mum to provide for us. Christmastime would be difficult because I would be embarrassed that I didn’t have the latest toys. She would get angry and start smashing plates. I was always confused as to how money could affect our family as much as it did.

I left school and didn’t have a clue what I wanted to do. I had no aspirations, no goals, and no real desire for more. Mainly because I didn’t think it was available for council estate lads like me. I saw my family, friends and people around the area and just accepted my life the way it was.

First, I went to college to do a course in travel and tourism. Why? I will never fucking know to this day. Like most 16-year-olds fresh from school with no clarity on life, this didn’t fulfil me at all. I just did it because I thought it was what I should be doing. But feeling directionless, I discovered alcohol and women and nights on the town. I soon surrounded myself with some bad friends, which led me into heavily using cocaine and ecstasy, sometimes four nights in a week.

Then I decided I wanted to find somewhere I belonged to, and also to clean myself up from the drugs and alcohol. So, in desperation, I went into the armed forces. As we started to fire live weapons and talk about wars, I thought, Fuck that, I’m off, and I realised the army wasn’t for me. I stood at the army barracks gates with my hand luggage in one hand and my release papers in the other, with my last £100 in my back pocket (on my 18th birthday, might I add). I stood there and thought, What the FUCK am I going to do now?

I got back home and straight back into the party scene. I started to become angry because of the way things were. I was so frustrated with myself that I would drink, take drugs, even sell them on the odd occasion, and regularly get involved in fights. I ended up getting addicted to steroids and life was a rollercoaster of emotions every day. I was striving for perfection because I never felt I was good enough unless I was looking the best. My Future was looking very grim.

I luckily managed to get myself a job in sales. I really enjoyed it, and I had finally found something that I was really good at. I was the top sales lad month on month and soon got a promotion to business manager, managing 10 staff members. This year I also met my wife and mother of my two beautiful children. I honestly thought, How the hell did I manage to pull this beauty?

At this point in my life, I finally thought I’d cracked life. My wife was a model, my body was in unreal physical shape, looking like a pumped-up Ken doll with teeth as white as arctic snow and a tan of a Brazilian forest worker! But the problem was that it all felt like a fluke, and I felt like I wasn’t worthy. Then, the recession hit. I lost over 80k on an apartment.

 

I ended up leaving sales and getting a job as a nightclub doorman in one of the roughest neighbourhoods in Middlesbrough. We were skint and had nothing, living back at our parents’ houses separately. This was my first brush with anxiety. When my daughter was born, unfortunately such a big life experience made my mental health even worse. I was obsessing over her, checking if she was ok every few minutes, never sleeping. As a result, I ended up with health-related anxiety. I managed to convince myself I had several different types of cancers, HIV, autoimmune diseases, brain tumors. You name it, and I’ve thought I’d had it. I ended up with PTSD and feeling suicidal and depressed. I couldn’t even walk past the stairs in my house without looking up at them and wanting to hang myself. Every day I woke up and asked, “Why me? What have I done to deserve this and feel like this?” I honestly think I was one day away from killing myself.

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During this time, I had been prescribed antidepressants, but it never sat right with me. It felt like I had given up and was using medication as the easy option. I realized that day that I couldn’t stay on tablets forever, and I really needed to make some changes in my life. I also wanted more for myself. I knew I had potential, and I wanted more money, more freedom and more happiness. So, I made a huge life-changing decision that day that I was going to go after it all, no matter what. 

 

I started engaging with therapists, reading books, listening to podcasts, watching YouTube videos. I had a friend that was massively into personal development who had done lots of courses. He seemed very content, happy and successful, so I decided to give it a go, too. 

During this l time in my life, I had gotten myself a job as a salesman for a damp-proofing company. Due to my personal growth, I was doing really well at the job, to the point where I actually transformed his business. The problem was I was working sixty hours a week, at least! Because of the newfound belief in myself, due to actions I had taken with my personal development, I thought to myself, Maybe I could put the tools down and work less, and earn more with my own business! I jumped straight in, worked with coaches and mentors, and within nine months I had earned over £100,000 and more money than I had ever made in my life. Not only that, but it felt amazing to be running a business and be in control of my own future. This had a knock-on effect on my life. I started to get into solid routines, continue to invest in myself, and look after my health and fitness again. 

 

I then realized there were a lot of other trade professionals like me out there, who wanted more and didn’t know how to get it. They were working long hours, and not getting the results they really wanted. With a few mindset shifts, as well as the right infrastructure, local marketing and effective sales and profitability, people can completely transform their life. I was the person to help them, as I’d been there. So, I went back into the world of personal development, but this time, I become a coach myself!

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Today, I run my own businesses, earning a six-figure income, with five staff members, which has allowed me the freedom to buy myself and my family things I’d never thought possible for a struggling council state lad like me. I’ve completely beaten mental health to the point where I feel great about myself every single day. I have a huge sense of clarity in my life around what I want and how to get it.

 

But more importantly, I’m fully qualified Coach and NLP practitioner, which means I now get to help other tradesman, who work their balls off, put down the tools, do less work and make more money. It’s so fulfilling to see people change their lives in the same way I have. 

 

I am so grateful for everything I have been through over the years. I honestly believe it was all needed to get me where I am today. Resilience isn’t given; it’s acquired by the years of battles in life and still managing to rise again and carry on fighting. If you are a tradesman who is ready for more in your life and business, then I am currently offering complimentary discovery sessions. During this session we will discuss how we can create more freedom in your business and work out a plan on how we can both get you there in the quickest time possible, so you can do less work and make more money!